Modala maleyante...

Modala maleyante edege ilide mellage

Modala kanasante olave olide ommege

Chachidaa kaige aakashave tagide

Geechida haage malebille maigantide

Hosa samvatsara hosa manvantara

Shuruvaagide aagide eega….

You have descended into my heart slowly like the first rain

I have started liking you instantaneously just like the first dream my love

Am able to touch the sky with my outstretched hands

The rainbow is pasted to my body as if someone has scratched it

New calendar, new architecture

is starting now

Modala maleyente edege ilide mellage...

You have descended into my heart slowly like the first rain


Nee nanage siguvaa munna

Ellellu baride mouna

Koti koti swara omme chimmo thara

Bande nee hattira ninte baanettara

Kanmuchi kanbittare badalaagide ee dhare

Hosa samvatsara hosa manvantara

Shuruvaagide aagide eega….

Before i met you,

there was profound silence everywhere

Just like Millions and millions of vowels spurt at a time

you come near me and stand as tall as the clouds

Each time i close and open my eyes, the world looks changed

New calendar, new architecture
is starting now

Ondondu kushiguu indu

Naa iduva hesare  nindu

Nanna ekantake antya nee haadide

Sundara swargake nanna nee doodide

Kanmunde neen iddare,ee lokake naa dore

Hosa samvatsara hosa manvantara

Shuru vagide aegide eega….

For each happiness that i am experiencing today

i will give it your name

you have put an end to my loneliness

you have pushed me onto the beautiful heaven

if you are in front of me it feels like am the king
New calendar, new architecture
is starting now

Modala maleyente edege ilide mellage

Modala kanasante olave olide ommege

Chachidaa kaige aakashave taagide

Gichida haage malebille maigantide

Hosa samvastara hosa manvantara

Shuruvaagide aagide eega….


You have descended into my heart slowly like the first rain
I have started liking you instantaneously just like the first dream my love
Am able to touch the sky with my outstretched hands

The rainbow is pasted to my body as if someone has scratched it

New calendar, new architecture
is starting now

What's on your mind?

This post is dedicated to my best friend G who has been asking me to write about 'how and why we need to express ourselves'? I had been putting off this topic as I hadn't taken it seriously but today for some reason I have realized why it is very important to express oneself. So G this post is for you (and mind you am writing before the deadline you had given me- close(d) friend's birthday. Though you had asked me to write a book this is the best I could do)

In one real-life situation, I was asked a question as to what according to me is needed to make a relationship stronger? I was taken aback on with this question and that too from a person whom I had just met.

I took a deep breath and told that the strength of a relationship lies in honesty, straight-forwardness and also the fact that we must learn to express ourselves in a way where-in we have to put forth our views in front of the people who are with us such that it doesn't inflict pain (read as sugar coated where necessary). The person may have not understood the underlying meaning behind my words but I strongly feel that communicating our views and concerns will definitely make way for a stronger bond between people thus helping us in the long run.

More often than not, people part mainly because of misunderstandings and a lot of presumptions caused due to mis-communication or the lack of it which can generally be avoided by sitting and pouring out.

There was yet another incident when G and myself had confronted another good friend of ours who had distanced herself from us abruptly. The answer that we got was that we can express ourselves well while she couldn't. If only she had expressed herself, we could still have been the thick of friends.

Well as a matter-of-fact, these are just a couple of incidents though in reality there are a lot of incidents where we need to talk. Say for instance a married couple, parents-children, manager-reportee, if need arises strangers, a guy and a girl when they are contemplating marriage (as is the case in arranged marriages) where the trust and knowledge about each other can increase only by expressing.

A lot of people face problem in expressing themselves as
a. They feel that their language quotient is not good enough
b. They tend to their egos more than the relationships
c. Their insecurities, for instance there are a lot of people who feel that if I tell my friend, partner, sibling about the issue, then they may feel that the information can be used against them at a later point of time and also that the former is considered insignificant than the latter or that the former will be degraded
d. Mostly people do not know how and why they should communicate.
e. Lack of confidence

The truth is unless we express people won't know what is going on in our minds. Sometimes the people around us can give better clarity and simpler resolution to the in-numerous battles that the mind is engaged in.

What more, even facebook, the most popular social networking site asks- 'what's on your mind' to update the status?

Come on people lets make our lives as well as the lives of people around us and most importantly of those whom we are close to, a lot simpler by expressing ourselves better..

If you have been an introvert, start by talking to your people whom you are close to such as your friends, family or better your reflection in the mirror to get the confidence to talk to people.

Guess what my favorite author agrees with me. This is what she had shared on her FB wall :)

So what's on your mind?

Workaholic me!!!

People in my close circles often feel that I am very much career-oriented, a go-getter, a workaholic who refrains from living 'life'.
Seldom do they know or understand the continuous rumblings if my mind which have taken the better on me and overpowered me, rendering me helpless.

Little did I know the consequences of doing something which everyone do. Nor was I lucky enough to enjoy to taste the fruit of the hard work.

I chose myself to be busy always so that my mind (as well as the heart) dint get much of free time to do trampoline as and when it wished.

I chose to pursue my dream of having a PG degree. I was too involved in my own routine to even breathe in the past sixteen months that today I dread at the thought of Friday evenings for which most people of my age look forward to so that they can have their 'their' time which includes hanging out with friends, family etc. The so called busy schedule came to an end this may when my theory classes got over and since then the Friday and Saturday nights are the most difficult to spend without thinking of the past happenings of life.

Lastly to all people I know and who are close to me, all I wanted to tell you is, I love doing a lot of things. For instance-travel, read novels, listen to mind-soothing music, draw, paint, write, watch movies with my good friends which I fully intend to do.

I need the right push and companionship to pursue my interests and mainly the courage to get over my fears of various things that makes a long list

Luv you all for giving me my time and space..

TOUCH- a book review

Can there be more than one love in a person's life?

Are only girls accountable for all the breakups?

Will the person who breaks-up never reminiscence the good times spent with eachother?

Is it easy to bury one's love and start afresh without any hiccups?

To find out one must read TOUCH- 'The One yoU Cannot Have', the fifth book by my favorite author Preeti Shenoy.This is the first book from the author which has been written from the male perspective.

To describe the book in one word- therapautic. It is not only for those who have loved and lost but also for those who have seen people love, for those who are in love and last but not the least for all those who intend to love.

The book revolves around the happenings in the life of Aman, the male protagonist. The book has been divided and written in the form of each character expressing his/her thoughts which makes it easier to understand.

While Aman and Shruti were once inseperable, Shruti is today married to Rishabh and Aman has moved base to Norwich to get over his heart-break.

It has been two years since then and now Aman is planning to return to India to start his life afresh

Anjali, a writer and a columnist for a women's magazine, got introduced to Aman through common friends and has been in touch with him since then. She has developed a liking to Aman. When Aman returns to India, he meets Anjali and he doesn't reciprocate when she makes advances thus leaving her bewildered.

Has Aman got over Shruti?

Has Shruti gotten over her past?

Can Aman and Shruti make peace with the past?

Will Anjali be successful in winning over Aman?

Will there be a happy ending in Aman's, Shruti's and Anjali's lives?

What will the effect of 'The One yoU Cannot Have' in everyone's lives?

To know more, grab a copy of TOUCH and read on.

It is definitely a page turner and apt for small journeys lasting 4-5 hours now that the holiday season is nearing.

I would rate the book as 4.5/5


P.S. This book has answered a lot of questions that were hovering in my mind in addition to showing me the right direction and strengthening me to go on in life.

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Mind's rumblings

Am not sure whether it is split personality or bipolar disorder that I am suffering from!

There are two me's.. One which asks me to:

1.trust people
2.love somone unconditionally
3.care for people around me
4.help the needy
5. Empathize with others 

Yet there is the second part of me that is more realistic and rings appropriate warning bells whenever I try to do any of the things that I have specified above and awakens the other me. It makes me recall the certain untoward and unexpected incidents that have happened over the past two years-

1. betrayals in friendship and in love..
2. Mistrust of people close to you..
3.The occassions when I couldn't get solace or support from people around me..
4.The rough times when I needed a shoulder to cry and I was offered none as the latter part took the better of me and refrained me from telling things to certain close people until I was strong enough to laugh off the incidents in the fear that others may laugh at my endeavours.

Which 'me' is going to win eventually?

Will I go back to become what I was a few years ago?

Will there ever be an end to the continuous raging battle in the form of my mind's rumblings?

May the best thing win.. Or has it already won in the process of reforming me into the person I am today- 'matured' and 'resilient'

Naa aana iss des lado!!

I was reading this post on a fellow blogger's blog and it brought tears to my eyes. The blogger had described her early life in a post which goes as follows: 

"The day her mother delivered her,she refused to even look at her let alone feed her just because she was girl and her mother wanted a male child. After a few days she was sent to her gran's place to be looked after. After a few years she was brought back however her mother's hatred continued towards her."


Such incidents happen even today. Whenever a woman gets pregnant, the so called elders bless her as 'may you be the mother of a bubbly little boy'. If she delivers a girl child it is portrayed as a sin and that there is some problem with the 'mother'.


Though women have got reservations in the parliament, in trains, buses, government offices and the world is screaming about gender equality being enforced everywhere, we still stand afar from the so called 'equal' status.

As girls, we are confined to the four walls in the house and restricted from playing or going out with others. Right through our childhood we are made to compromise our desires and lead life as per the wishes of our parents. We are made to sacrifice our dreams of spreading our wings and go flying. 

Today, though a lot of women have made it big in a diverse quarters, there are a lot many women who are still confined to their houses.

A girl is expected to listen to and follow her parents instructions till she gets married failing which she may not be considered a good 'marriage material'. The day she gets married, she has to stop helping her parents though her husband and in-laws are doing exceptionally well. Even her parents stop telling her their problems as she doesn't belong  to their family anymore as goes the popular saying in kannada- 'kotta hennu kulakke horage' which transliterates to 'a gal after marriage is out of clan'.


After marriage, the girl is expected to follow the weird rules laid out by her husband and his parents. The girl is expected to consider the new house as hers though the 'new' family doesn't consider her to be one amongst them. Sometimes the problems at the in-laws will not be spoken of in-front of her for the sole reason that she is new to the family and doesn't belong to the family yet. There starts the dilemma in the girl- where does she actually belong - her birth house or her in-laws house (or should i say whom does she belong to?)

Though she is the backbone of all the families, the one who takes up all the gargantuan and smaller tasks, sacrificing her life throughout, she is far from being accepted and acknowledged for her contribution and support towards it.

Though we say that there is women empowerment today as compared to two or three decades earlier, it takes a lot of open minded people and major change in the way people think to give the women what they actually deserve.

Will she ever be accepted the way she is without having her wings clipped?

Will there ever be a never-sagging support from everyone and more importantly her family till she succeeds?

Will there ever be a cushion when she falls?

Will she be given enough time to empower herself?

Or should we continue praying god for the male progeny and silently whisper- 'Naa aana iss des laado'!!

Are you mature yet??

There are times when.. 

   You know that you are being rude towards a person, yet you continue to be, just not to hurt the other person with the truth and sometimes not to hurt yourself..
 You need to clarify something to a person yet you choose to remain silent just to show that you do not care or when you know that the answer can change the person's life..
  You know that you deserve a response or clarification behind a person's actions yet you choose to let things be as you feel that the unknown is better than the known..
  You know that you are bring avoided by a person yet you continue to pretend that you are unaware..
  You know that you are hurt by a person and want to avoid the person completely yet you continue to be there for the person..
  You know that someone needs you during their bad times yet you choose to leave the person alone just to make the person strong and independent..
  You know that you are not being loved by that someone who means a lot to, you yet you continue to love them silently just in the hope that your love may be acknowledged and reciprocated someday..
  You know a person loves you dearly yet you don't reciprocate it and let it go just to avoid hurting the person and sometimes yourself..
These are the times when the heart rules over your mind and at other times, the kid in you vaporizes to make way for the mature you..
Whom to hold account for at these times - the other person or the mature you?

You deserve someone better!!

Loving someone is easy however continuing to shower love to the person is way too difficult for many of us.
 
None of us are sure as to what and why things go wrong eventually. Primarily, expectations are what makes us apart. We tend to expect the person to treat us in a way we have been treated in the initial days of the relationship. 

The 'miss you', 'love you', 'let's meet up', 'can't wait to see you' kind of messages give way to 'talk to you later', 'am busy right now', 'Can't meet, stuck up with some work'. 

When things go from bad to worse and the road ahead is a dead-end, the most common excuse people come up with is 'You are good so you deserve someone better'.

My question is why say 'you deserve someone better' and not put efforts to become 'better' to the extent the person deserves?

The First Date

It is drizzling outside and all that is visible is the soft orange glow entering the restaurant's side wall from the mixture of headlights of the passing cars and the street lights placed equidistantly. 

Anushka is sitting in the corner table facing the street and her fingers are fidgeting the top end of the menu that the waiter had placed as her mind drifts to the evening she had met Rishabh. 

It was during an office party that they had met eachother. Anushka had come out of the dance bar to attend her mother's call. On disconnecting, she heard the hum of her favorite song coming from the direction of the artificial rivulet.

On walking towards the sound, she found that a lonely figure - Rishabh was humming the song. Seeing the startled expression on Rishabh's face, Anu blushed and introduced herself. Before they could know more about eachother, Anu's friends came out looking for her and took her inside. 

After a couple of days Rishabh and Anu bump into eachother in the lift and exchange smiles. A couple of such unprecedented meetings later Rishabh searches for her name in the office communicator and pings a 'hi'. 

The next day Anu responds to the ping saying she hadn't noticed the chat the previous day as she was on leave. Over the next few days they continue their conversations over the communicator. During the course of their conversations they find out that they have a lot of common interests.

One day, a week later, he offered to drop her home as he had to meet his friend and Anu's house was on the way. On reaching her house they exchange their numbers and Rishabh hurried to meet his friend. On returning home he sees a message from Anu thanking him for the ride home.

On friday evening he gives her a call and asks her to meet him at the coffee shop at 6 to which she reluctantly agreed. Now here she is, waiting for the guy whom she had known for less than a fortnight.

Rishabh comes and sits opposite to her and apologizes for being late to which she smiles. He is wearing an Indigo colored checkered shirt which is accentuating his striking features.

They speak for an hour about the general stuff and when they get ready to leave, he asks her if they can go on a drive to which she readily agrees.

They drive for half an hour and it surprises her when she sees the place he has brought her. It was the same place where they had first met.

She goes to the bench near the rivulet and sits down and he follows her with a rose in his hand.

He gives her the rose and asks her to marry him to which she is surprised. Tears start to roll down her cheek and she nods in approval to his proposal.