I am cursed, do you know why...

... Because i am a woman...

Her ill-fated luck starts the moment she is born. Rather than being treated as a good fortune or luck to the family, she will be looked down upon as a misfortune which has dawned upon the family.

She is treated as a debit to the family while the brothers who have been born before or after her are treated as credits..

Is it her fault that she is born a girl? Why do people, even though in 21st century still believe this?

Where do the talks of 'women empowerment' and 'beti bachao' andolans end up? Though years have rolled by and literacy percentage has increased, why has the temperament of people not changed?

Yes, i do agree that males carry the dominant genes from a family and that is one of the scientific reasons why it is necessary to have a male child but isn't the girl child carrying a part of your genes too (which may or may not be recessive)?

In a country like India with its vast geographical area and a place where goddesses are worshipped, there is a highly dominated patriarchal society and a recessive matriarchal society. Where do we stand in terms of gender equality?

We all want to make the world a better place to live in. What are we doing to the people who are trying to educate and bring to light the atrocities against women?

In recent times, we all know that the documentary pertaining to the rape victim (Nirbhaya- 26th December 2012 case) that was aired in UK and subsequently available on the internet was removed following the objections by various people. Where is the right to speech?

Is there going to be an end to the gender discrimination or do we have to silently continue chanting - 'Naa aana iss desh laado! The time has not arrived for you to get the respect that you deserve nor is your value understood'.

Naa aana iss des lado!!

I was reading this post on a fellow blogger's blog and it brought tears to my eyes. The blogger had described her early life in a post which goes as follows: 

"The day her mother delivered her,she refused to even look at her let alone feed her just because she was girl and her mother wanted a male child. After a few days she was sent to her gran's place to be looked after. After a few years she was brought back however her mother's hatred continued towards her."


Such incidents happen even today. Whenever a woman gets pregnant, the so called elders bless her as 'may you be the mother of a bubbly little boy'. If she delivers a girl child it is portrayed as a sin and that there is some problem with the 'mother'.


Though women have got reservations in the parliament, in trains, buses, government offices and the world is screaming about gender equality being enforced everywhere, we still stand afar from the so called 'equal' status.

As girls, we are confined to the four walls in the house and restricted from playing or going out with others. Right through our childhood we are made to compromise our desires and lead life as per the wishes of our parents. We are made to sacrifice our dreams of spreading our wings and go flying. 

Today, though a lot of women have made it big in a diverse quarters, there are a lot many women who are still confined to their houses.

A girl is expected to listen to and follow her parents instructions till she gets married failing which she may not be considered a good 'marriage material'. The day she gets married, she has to stop helping her parents though her husband and in-laws are doing exceptionally well. Even her parents stop telling her their problems as she doesn't belong  to their family anymore as goes the popular saying in kannada- 'kotta hennu kulakke horage' which transliterates to 'a gal after marriage is out of clan'.


After marriage, the girl is expected to follow the weird rules laid out by her husband and his parents. The girl is expected to consider the new house as hers though the 'new' family doesn't consider her to be one amongst them. Sometimes the problems at the in-laws will not be spoken of in-front of her for the sole reason that she is new to the family and doesn't belong to the family yet. There starts the dilemma in the girl- where does she actually belong - her birth house or her in-laws house (or should i say whom does she belong to?)

Though she is the backbone of all the families, the one who takes up all the gargantuan and smaller tasks, sacrificing her life throughout, she is far from being accepted and acknowledged for her contribution and support towards it.

Though we say that there is women empowerment today as compared to two or three decades earlier, it takes a lot of open minded people and major change in the way people think to give the women what they actually deserve.

Will she ever be accepted the way she is without having her wings clipped?

Will there ever be a never-sagging support from everyone and more importantly her family till she succeeds?

Will there ever be a cushion when she falls?

Will she be given enough time to empower herself?

Or should we continue praying god for the male progeny and silently whisper- 'Naa aana iss des laado'!!