I love u but or but I love you?

There are a lot of instances wherein we know that the person behind the memories means a lot to us especially if the person concerned is part of the past.

While it is easy to say 'I love you', the sentence has an altogether different effect if it is prefixed or suffixed with a three-lettered word 'but'.

It brings immense joy if a person says '....But I love you..'

While the sentence 'I love you but,...’ has its opposite effect. Yet today I feel like telling some person the second sentence for I know that in spite of giving a lot of chances, the person has failed to make use of it. I know for a fact that though I say 'I love you' it doesn't have any implications on the person while it still hurts me when I look back and realize that I had liked him when I was nothing but a cat's-paw to him- a stopover in his journey of life. All that mattered to him was him- a narcissist with no feelings for others. Today am happy that it didn't work out for what I am is and what I expect is much different from his way of leading life- seclusion. 

Hopefully I get to say the second sentence to that someone who enters my life and stays put without having to leave me, the one who loves me despite all my insecurities and glues the million shattered pieces of my heart, the one who holds my hand and makes me realize why I have failed previously..

Convince or compromise?

Today I was having a casual talk with a good friend Appu. We were discussing on relationships and marriages. I told him that love marriages are better while he was of the opinion that arranged marriages are better. I was trying to justify my opinion saying since we know the person before, I feel love marriages were better while he was of the opinion that though we know the person, the self esteem of the individual comes down in the eyes of both the families during love marriages.

As the discussion progressed, he told a factual sentence which most of us wouldn't have given a thought -'the most common mistake that all of us do is rather than convincing the people around us about our thoughts and beliefs, we tend to compromise so as to not hurt the people around and in the long run we end up feeling unhappy'.

Isn't it true that only if we are happy that we can bring upon smiles and happiness in the lives of people around us?

We should remember this each time we think of giving up something we cherish a lot.

Good luck. :)

A letter to my child

Dear Child,

Hope you get to read this mail someday when the time is right which i feel is the teens for that is the right age for you to understand what I have got to say.

There is a saying which goes like this-'Its not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings'. So it becomes my responsibility to tell you as to how to face the world that ceases to be all it used it has been till now for you. You get to see the real side of the world now- Competition, jealousy, selfishness, mistrust and what not. Yet, don't generalize that the world is bad for without all these, life becomes dull.

All I want to tell you is even I have been through all the uncertainties and the confusions that you are going through now. We as parents may sometimes be forced to succumb to the societal pressures and  would expect you to lead life in a certain way. It doesn't mean that we have stopped loving you or caring for you. Give us time, talk to us and make us understand as to what and why you think what you are doing is right.. we will surely understand and support you.

At this age, I do agree that all you need is a patient ear to hear what you got to say. Everything you see tempts you to give a try. I wouldn't stop you from doing what is right but please be honest and truthful to yourself. If you feel its right do it, when you are unsure, i am always there for you. Tell me what you are going through and how you are feeling for I can't read or understand all the zillion thoughts that swish across your mind. I do know that you are equally nervous as I am about you.

Be confident and bold about yourself. When you feel that something is wrong, stand up and fight for yourself and the ones who deserve to be fought for but also know when to hold back. If you realize that you have done something wrong, don't regret for we all learn from our mistakes. Each time you fall down, don't forget to pick yourself up and go on in life.

Stick to your principles. Never compromise on your ideals due to peer pressure but don't be resilient to change as well.

Though people say that love is surreal. I would say its the most beautiful feeling and a bliss if you find the right person. Don't shun away from it. All I request you is once you commit, never shudder away.. for it is wrong. There will be in-numerous dreams, hopes and aspirations from you. Never let down the person at any cost for you will be their support system. Also remember no relationship is perfect. It is within us to try to make it perfect. If need arises, fight for each other than fighting with each other. If there are misunderstandings, sit down and sort it out. Only when you feel that you are not amicable with each other and nothing can be done to keep the relationship alive, think of separation as it is the last resort. Remember that though there may be thousand reasons to give up, only one strong reason is enough to hold on.

Never cause pain to anyone. Nobody bothers if you are not of help but don't be the reason for someone's pain. If something is bothering you, take a break from what you are doing and contemplate with a calm mind. If it still bothers you, talk to anyone you are comfortable with.

Do not forget- You are special. Learn to listen to what your heart has got to tell for it know what is right for you. Be self-sufficient, self-confident and happy always but not self-centered.

When things go wrong, it is for a short period of time. Don't lose hope and give up. Once the tough phase passes, you will sit back and laugh at it. 

Lastly, if you are a girl, remember you are special and there is nothing impossible. When someone says that you cannot do it, put in a little more effort and see the results for yourself. Am sure it will leave the person spellbound. 

If you are a boy, please do respect women- be it your family or friends or the stranger on the road. Never degrade anyone for it doesn't harm them but you will fall in their eyes.

Never judge anyone for each person will be fighting their own demons, insecurities and shortcomings.

Live the moment else it becomes a memory.

Love you loads and here are my hugs and kisses..

Your loving Mom..

My mom... my superstar

If you're a sword, she's your shield,

If you're a spark, she’s your Kindle.

If you’re a ship, she's your mast,

If you're the night, she's your moon..

She is none other than a mother.

Mother - a word in the dictionary that means a woman in relation to a child to whom she has given birth, to the child it means the world.

A mother is one who plays a Zillion roles in her children's lives and nothing can surpass the myriad gifts she bestows upon her children. She is the one who bestows upon her child everything from wisdom, character, humor, patience, strength, compassion, diligence, beauty and unconditional love to godliness.

She is the child's many 'firsts'. Its first friend, guide, philosopher, teacher, sibling.

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Showering her unselfish affection, she works tirelessly around the clock to give her very best to the child. She is the only person who doesn't expect anything in return in spite of sacrificing everything for her child. She carries the child in her womb for nine months and when it is born, its a re-birth to her. She forgets all the pain she under goes in labor the moment she holds the kid in her arms. In the initial days of the child’s life on earth, she spends many a sleepless nights just to ensure that her kid sleeps peacefully. Each child of hers is special to her.

Even if the entire world turns against the child, she will be its constant companion. She holds its hand when it falls to the ground. She pushes it to try and never give up. Each accomplishment brings a smile on her face however small it is. She beams with pride with its first steps, first words, victories and each accomplishment.

What more can I ask than her well-being and happiness?

It is your smile that I look forward to everyday after I return from work mom.

Forgive me for all the wrongs that I have done, for without you, I am nothing.

I need your hands to guide me in all my steps.

I need your soothing hug for it can set-right all the wrong happenings in my life.

I need you to walk beside me each time I take a new path.

I need you to strengthen me when I am down.

I need you to pat me to sleep on the many sleepless nights I have.

I need you to comfort me when the entire world takes on me.

Mom, you are special, my super-woman. Love you loads <3

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A video that i watched today has summarized everything that is on my mind. A tribute to all the wonderful mother's in the world.

Why are we resilient to Change?

Why are we resilient to change?- be it changing ourselves for good or the surroundings that we live or even the material possessions that we own or as a matter of fact our work place?

Though the 'change' is for something better, we feel insecure and also unsure of what the future has in store for us. It is always hard to let go- be it humans or the material possessions.

Most people are fearful of change because they don't believe they have any control over how or when it happens to them. Since change happens either to the individual or by the individual, what matters most is the attitude we have about change.

During my high school days, i had read the book 'Who moved my Cheese?' by Spencer Johnson. The book describes the changes in one's work and life, and four typical reactions to the said change by two mice "Sniff" and "Scurry," and two little people,"Hem" and "Haw.", during their hunt for cheese.

Likewise i see a lot of people whose lives turn for good yet they keep cribbing about trivial issues like weather, transport, traffic etc.

Can people ever accept life as it comes to them without much qualms?

What to do instead of gnawing about change? (As written by 'Haw' on finding the new cheese station)

1.Change Happens - They Keep Moving The Cheese

2.Anticipate Change - Get Ready For The Cheese To Move

3.Monitor Change- Smell The Cheese Often So You Know When It Is Getting Old

4.Adapt To Change Quickly- The Quicker You Let Go Of Old Cheese, The Sooner You Can Enjoy New Cheese

5.Change- Move With The Cheese

6. Enjoy Change!- Savor The Adventure And Enjoy The Taste Of New Cheese!

7. Be Ready To Change Quickly And Enjoy It Again- They Keep Moving The Cheese

Rather than focusing only on the negative impact due to change, let's embrace the change for the betterment of ourselves. Remember if the caterpillar was resilient to change then we wouldn't see the butterfly

'Don't be afraid to change for you may lose something good but may gain something better'.

P.S. This post was written when i was having butterflies to replace my phone that i had been using since 7th August 2011. I got a new phone as a birthday gift from my sister :) 

Power of thoughts

There is a saying which goes like this: watch your thoughts for they become your words, watch your words for they become your actions..

This indicates that thoughts directly or indirectly control your life and its actions. So be careful about what you think. If you think positive, you can achieve miracles. If you are negative even the simplest of the tasks becomes tough.

There is one story to illustrate the effects of negative thoughts and actions: In some part of the world, there is a village in which of the villagers need firewood from a tree which is lush and green, all of them surround it and curse it the result of which makes the tree go dry and eventually die from which they collect dry wood for their livelihood.

Similarly the power train of thoughts in one's mind can make or break the person's life. For instance the cricketer Yuvraj Singh and the actress Manisha Koirala were able to cure themselves from the bout of cancer mainly due to the positivity that they had. From my personal experience, my grand dad was able to overcome his first bout of cancer due to his positivity and later succumbed to it when it returned three years later just because he gave up on himself and his life.

So beware of what you think.. Be positive (not only in terms of blood group but also in your thoughts). Nothing is ever unattainable.