Out of the blue, a cousin of mine pinged me on facebook messenger to ask if i had changed my name after marriage(Now that i have been married for close to 2 years):
The discussion was like this:
He: I was just wondering if you have changed your name after marriage.Whats the present trend .My wife hasn't
Me: I have not changed it too.. I am happy and content with the name that has made me who I am.. proud to be my father's daughter first
He: Absolutely correct for Kitta Mama. He is a grt man, a good mentor and of course was also a terror in DSM when I was very young.Still remember him taking the pesticide back pack with the sprinkler in his hand
Me: thanks for such words :)
He: Whatever said is from my heart rather I can say these were my wordings.
Proud daughter!!
After the discussion, i was wondering if it is really necessary to change one's name after marriage. While i see most of my friends or relatives changing the name soon after marriage or adding their spouse's name or family name after their name, i still dint get to understand the significance of the same.
While it is our maiden name that has given us everything and has made us what we are, i opine that it should be left to the girl to append her spouse's name or family name to her's.
