Over the weekend, we could see only one news flashing across all the news channels- Actress Preity Zinta had filed a harassment case against her kings XI co-owner and ex lover Ness Wadia. Though the incident happened on 30th May 2014 it was brought to light only on 14th June 2014. Lot of people went about saying that its Preity's fault cause she had enjoyed all the benefits of being a businessman's girlfriend and now is accusing him of misbehavior.
Though nothing is certain about who is guilty and who is taking undue advantage, the incident has pushed me to write something in this regard. The most common issue that women face irrespective of whether she is educated, earning well, single or married; the stares, touch, words - sometimes knowingly and at other times unknowingly. Why do people fail to understand the discomfort that they cause with these demeanor?
If these untoward incidents happen due to strangers then we can very well take action yet it hurts the most when a person who is close to us does that. While many men tell that they are against such things and join the women in their protests there are a few who are all words of sympathy and no action.
Last month a few rape cases were reported from Uttar Pradesh. When one of the journalists asked the chief minister about the action he would take, he got a shocking reply- 'Did it happen to you? No right? Then continue with your work its all common'. If a person with power and education replies in this manner then what to expect from others?
There are times when a woman has to listen to things like - being a lady its easier for you to get things done for everyone has a soft corner towards you. At office, if a lady gets promoted faster and if she is praised for her worthiness people go about talking that she would have slept with her boss. What a crap thinking! Can't women be smart?
If a guy helps a girl it doesn't mean that they both aren't going around with each other.If we join you for lunch or coffee it doesn't mean that we are giving you an invitation or the feeling that we are hitting on you.
Even if you are our friend (sometimes a very good friend too) it doesn't mean that you can tell us whatever comes to your mind and even if you like us and are possessive about us please don't look at us with love filled eyes if you know that the relationship cannot be taken forward.. We are not comfortable with all the lovey-dovey aspects though we are the most romantic creatures on earth.
Give us the space and remember that we won't mind getting a scan done if we need medical analysis but hate to be scanned by the eyes. We are not some showpieces to be stared at or non living things to be touched and felt.
Though nothing is certain about who is guilty and who is taking undue advantage, the incident has pushed me to write something in this regard. The most common issue that women face irrespective of whether she is educated, earning well, single or married; the stares, touch, words - sometimes knowingly and at other times unknowingly. Why do people fail to understand the discomfort that they cause with these demeanor?
If these untoward incidents happen due to strangers then we can very well take action yet it hurts the most when a person who is close to us does that. While many men tell that they are against such things and join the women in their protests there are a few who are all words of sympathy and no action.
Last month a few rape cases were reported from Uttar Pradesh. When one of the journalists asked the chief minister about the action he would take, he got a shocking reply- 'Did it happen to you? No right? Then continue with your work its all common'. If a person with power and education replies in this manner then what to expect from others?
There are times when a woman has to listen to things like - being a lady its easier for you to get things done for everyone has a soft corner towards you. At office, if a lady gets promoted faster and if she is praised for her worthiness people go about talking that she would have slept with her boss. What a crap thinking! Can't women be smart?
If a guy helps a girl it doesn't mean that they both aren't going around with each other.If we join you for lunch or coffee it doesn't mean that we are giving you an invitation or the feeling that we are hitting on you.
Even if you are our friend (sometimes a very good friend too) it doesn't mean that you can tell us whatever comes to your mind and even if you like us and are possessive about us please don't look at us with love filled eyes if you know that the relationship cannot be taken forward.. We are not comfortable with all the lovey-dovey aspects though we are the most romantic creatures on earth.
Give us the space and remember that we won't mind getting a scan done if we need medical analysis but hate to be scanned by the eyes. We are not some showpieces to be stared at or non living things to be touched and felt.
